How To Keep Him Interested In You

By Marvin Wilcox


Why is it that a woman who seems to have it all - good looks, a successful career and great friends - can have trouble achieving a good relationship with a man? It doesn't seem to make any sense on the surface. She is kind and considerate; she is available to him whenever he calls and understanding when he has to break a date. She cooks him gourmet meals and buys him little gifts.Unless you are adept at decoding male psychology, it is hard to figure out how such a woman can't seem to hold a man's interest. She seems to do everything right yet her relationships always seem to fail. What is she doing wrong?

Although men tend to marry women who have the qualities mentioned above, they prefer to do the pursuing at the beginning of the relationship. They thrive on "the thrill of the chase," and lose interest if a woman is too available. To give him the illusion of being the one in pursuit, a woman would be wise to play a bit hard to get at first. Here's how:Don't always pick up the phone on the first ring. Let him wonder where you are and what you are doing.Don't be instantly available when he asks you out. Tell him you'll have to check your calendar. And don't accept the date if you have a conflict.If he texts you or calls, let him wait for an hour or so before you respond. Let him know you are a busy, active woman who has better things to do than sit around waiting for him to call.Do wait for him to ask you out. If you do the asking, you will take the excitement out of the chase.Be a little mysterious and a lot of fun.

While guys may like staring at beautiful women, just these two alone will not make a guy want to stay with a woman. As you may already know, one of men's long-term goals is to establish communication with a woman. Therefore, being witty or intelligent will help you and your man establish communication.

Have there been times in your relationship that you think that the spark is gone or that he's changed? My boyfriend once told me that sometimes he wishes women would truly hear and understand them. I have to agree. Most of them aren't the egotistical, self centered Neanderthals that we sometimes think they are. But at the risk of using a worn out clich, men at times are really misunderstood. Honestly, the times when you think they're losing interest and you doing anything and everything to keep him interested in you most of the time makes the situation worse. So I asked him what should we do? According to him, here are a few tips on how to keep a guy interested in you:

Third, tell him important facts about you, but leave a little information to be a mystery. Whilst it is important to let him learn more facts about you, it will also be very favorable for you if you leave a little mystery. From time to time, let him ask questions about you. Don't just blurt out everything. If you do this, you'll increase his curiosity and you can be sure that he will turn his attention on you and will eventually stay with you much longer.

Fourth, don't be a chatterbox and listen to him. Most men love talking about themselves, so give your man a chance to talk. Listen to him intently and give him your undivided attention. Again, this is a good way to establish communication, as well as encourage him to open up to you and tell you even his problems and fears. Also, it will give you the opportunity to learn more about him.

Have you started taking your guy for granted? How long has it been since you took the pains to impress him? Read up on the latest sports events and find out facts about his favorite player. If you can tell him a thing or two he will be super impressed. Besides you will bring him closer to you. It's okay if you want to behave like a tramp for your man in your bedroom! He would be pleasantly surprised if you take the trouble to spice up your sex life! If he is sexually satisfied with you - he will not lose interest in you.

Probably one of the more common mistakes (that you don't even realize or won't admit you've been doing) is taking him for granted. Whatever happened to that sexy, hot and interesting woman he fell in love with? Just because you've been together for years doesn't give you the right to put on 20 pounds and go out in jogging pants and an old college sweater. Always try to look good both for yourself and for him.




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