After Premarital Counseling Bethesda MD Marriages Are More Likely To Last

By Marie Turner


Marriage is a unique legal institution because it involves two people that are devoted to each other but also two people that accept certain legal responsibilities towards each others. Sadly, far too many couples never even consider the fact that marriage is a legal bond too. They are in love and they want to marry. If the marriage does not succeed, the result is almost always intense pain, suffering and even anger. By rather agreeing to premarital counseling Bethesda MD couples can enter marriage realistically.

Counsellors will readily agree that the majority of couples intending marriage do not even know each other very well. They also do not know exactly what a marriage contract entails. Some couples get married because they are expected to do so. Others marry simply to make a long standing relationship more official. These marriages seldom last and it is best to first make sure by seeking help from a counsellor.

A reputable relationship counsellor can help couples to examine their relationship and to decide whether they are ready for marriage yet. The counsellor will lead the two partners through a journey of discovering each other and the needs and expectations of each of the partners. If their are major differences between the expectations and needs of the two partners, they may not be ready to take the big step.

Couples also need to examine the reasons why they wish to become married. Far too many couples marry for all the wrong reasons. Sometimes they get married simply because they enjoy a highly satisfactory sex life. In some cases one of the partners simply long for financial or emotional security. Marriage can even lead to social elevation. When marrying for such reasons the marriage is not likely to last.

Many couples with stars in their eyes never even think about the many legal implications of a marriage bond. They do not think about things such as prenuptial contracts, joint asset management, insurance, joint taxes, and other boring issues that nevertheless should be important to anyone contemplating marriage. A counsellor can help couples face and resolve these issues.

Couples intending to get married also need to learn that marriage is not all moonshine and roses. There will be hard times, there will be arguments and there will be big changes along the way. They need to learn how to cope with conflict and change before they get married. A counsellor can help them learn how to communicate properly and how to handle conflict in a mature, responsible manner.

In many successful marriages couples keep on seeing a counsellor from time to time. They do this to make sure that their marriages survive the upheavals and changes of time. Marriages change. Suddenly children become part of the picture. Financial circumstances may change. The needs of the individual partner may change. Wise couples therefore keep seeing counsellors to make sure that they are equipped to weather these storms that every marriage will go through.

Modern marriages are often under tremendous pressure. In most cases, both partners are pursuing careers and they each have responsibilities. If there are children, the entire situation changes. Couples need to be ready for these changes. A counsellor from the very start of their marriage can be of invaluable help.




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