Dealing with relationships that are up one day and down the next is very difficult indeed. Not knowing what you will face from hour to hour is depressing at best. There are ways to help you get through these times and hopefully, on to better ones.
Women tend to blame themselves when something goes wrong in the relationship, especially in the beginning when everything was going so well. Because they are run by emotion, they get upset thinking that they must have caused this sudden pullback by their partner.
He stops communicating; the calls and texts have suddenly stopped. The first thing women think it that he's upset with her but not saying why. Her imagination goes off the charts about what she must have done to cause this.
Women shouldn't blame themselves if he stops calling, unless there is an obvious reason. But when there is no apparent reason, they fill in the blanks with all of the things that must have been wrong that he wasn't telling her.
This is when she tries to make contact and he doesn't answer, at least right away. Distress sets in because she is run by emotion. So, she keeps trying to make contact and when he doesn't answer, she feels it may be over and doesn't know why. Maybe it is and maybe it isn't over.
When boy chases girl - things tend to work out better than when girl chases boy. This usually leads to boy running. Women are not as aware of this as they once were. It is straight biology! Men like to do the chasing by nature, but, when women do it they are perceived as being to easy to get.
When he stops contacting you, it is time to wait and do nothing. Let him do the pursuing as that is his biological nature. Basically, ignore him for a while.
- Let him have his space
- Your controlled absence will cause him to wonder
- When he does make contact, make him wait before getting back to him
- Don't sit sit by the phone
- Accept his contact only during the day
If he contacts you and wants to come over 'tonight' tell him you have other plans or that you are too tired. This will encourage him to plan ahead and have respect for you and the relationship. He needs to learn to work for what he wants and not have it just be given to him whenever he wants attention from you.
When he stops contacting you, this is a great time to get back to your own life the way it used to be. A full life will take your mind off current circumstances. This will let him know that you don't need him to lean on to be happy.
Men need a challenge when it comes to pursuing women. If he doesn't take a royal hint at the things mentioned above, it is time to ditch him and open yourself up to someone who wants what you have to offer. If taking you for granted by coming and going whenever he decides to, maybe it is time to re-think this relationship because the bottom line is that you are not getting what you need and want from it.
Women tend to blame themselves when something goes wrong in the relationship, especially in the beginning when everything was going so well. Because they are run by emotion, they get upset thinking that they must have caused this sudden pullback by their partner.
He stops communicating; the calls and texts have suddenly stopped. The first thing women think it that he's upset with her but not saying why. Her imagination goes off the charts about what she must have done to cause this.
Women shouldn't blame themselves if he stops calling, unless there is an obvious reason. But when there is no apparent reason, they fill in the blanks with all of the things that must have been wrong that he wasn't telling her.
This is when she tries to make contact and he doesn't answer, at least right away. Distress sets in because she is run by emotion. So, she keeps trying to make contact and when he doesn't answer, she feels it may be over and doesn't know why. Maybe it is and maybe it isn't over.
When boy chases girl - things tend to work out better than when girl chases boy. This usually leads to boy running. Women are not as aware of this as they once were. It is straight biology! Men like to do the chasing by nature, but, when women do it they are perceived as being to easy to get.
When he stops contacting you, it is time to wait and do nothing. Let him do the pursuing as that is his biological nature. Basically, ignore him for a while.
- Let him have his space
- Your controlled absence will cause him to wonder
- When he does make contact, make him wait before getting back to him
- Don't sit sit by the phone
- Accept his contact only during the day
If he contacts you and wants to come over 'tonight' tell him you have other plans or that you are too tired. This will encourage him to plan ahead and have respect for you and the relationship. He needs to learn to work for what he wants and not have it just be given to him whenever he wants attention from you.
When he stops contacting you, this is a great time to get back to your own life the way it used to be. A full life will take your mind off current circumstances. This will let him know that you don't need him to lean on to be happy.
Men need a challenge when it comes to pursuing women. If he doesn't take a royal hint at the things mentioned above, it is time to ditch him and open yourself up to someone who wants what you have to offer. If taking you for granted by coming and going whenever he decides to, maybe it is time to re-think this relationship because the bottom line is that you are not getting what you need and want from it.
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