The Grieving Process And Getting Your Ex Back

By Dianne Pate


Wanting to regain the love of someone that you feel very strongly for is an honorable goal. Wanting to love and be loved is a human need, after all. None of us wants to spend our life alone and only a few times in your life do you meet someone that you truly connect with.

Acceptance that your old relationship is over and looking to the future is the key to your happiness. How do you move on with your life yet remain optimistic that things will work out between you and your ex?

There are many different problems that happen in a romantic relationship that can lead to a breakup. Sometimes we make mistakes that we later regret. Perhaps our partner becomes the target of someone else's charming ways and flattery and they are lured away from us. Other times life gets in the way of our relationship and problems with family, friends, money, time and general problems in life cause us to drift apart in our relationship.

Taking some time to grieve can be important. Allowing yourself some time to cry, become angry or upset and feel those feeling is important. Denying these emotions might cause problems later on in life.

These emotions very well might come back when we are reunited with our ex and cause problems. Unresolved resentment could cause you to become angry when you do get back together with your ex or if you do decide to get into a relationship with someone else. This is why it's important to feel these emotions and work through them now when you're alone.

Taking advantage of this time apart from the one you love can also be helpful. You might actually find that you can take care of issues in your life or make changes in your life that you might not otherwise have the time to do if you were with someone. Being in a relationship can take up a lot of time in your life. Having the freedom to be alone with your thoughs is sometimes helpful. Having the time to achieve goals that you simply didn't have the time to achieve is important. Maybe you had always wanted to start a small business or take some college classes. Now is the time to do these things before you find yourself back together with your ex.

Be sure in your heart that you are worthy of the love that you desire. Feel it in every part of your being. You deserve to be loved by that one special person. It's natural. If you truly love your ex then you will be patient and understanding. You can put your own needs aside and take advantage of this time alone to work on yourself. Spend some time thinking about things from your ex's point of view. How would you feel if you needed some space and time to figure things out in your relationship but your partner was being selfish and kept on pressuring you? Give your ex all the space and time they need and then surprise them when they do check to see how you've been doing.

Take some time and grieve. Allow yourself to experience that pain but put a limit on the grieving process. Once you begin to feel better about yourself then you'll know that it's time to get to work. Soon it will be time to focus on yourself, your needs and your life. Once you begin to care for yourself and love yourself, you will find that you become more attractive to other people in your life, including your ex. The faster you get past the grieving process and on to rebuilding your life, the sooner you will find that your ex will come back to you. Remember that it's always when we're busy with other things that wonderful things happen. When you least expect it, your ex will walk right back into your life.




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