Do You Need Relationship Help For Your Marriage?

By Reynaldo Fuentes


Almost all marriages need help at one time or another in order to maintain a good relationship. Any marriage that doesn't have a good relationship will probably not last for long. Even if the union does happen to last somehow, the couples are usually not content and happy.

You might be asking yourself, what is the difference between a relationship and a marriage? A marriage is the bond that is formed in holy matrimony between two people. In the eyes of the law and man they are one. They can only be separated by divorce or death.

In a relationship, you have a friendship that you likely began well before marriage and you will continue to grow and deepen your friendship as long as time goes on. Ideally, this began before you even tied the knot.

Sadly, others may notice that your relationship and marriage are crumbling well before you notice it. They'll see you going to functions without your other half and giving an excuse for their absence.

When you are spending time together, you constantly complain about different petty annoyances and are always criticizing each other. Or sometimes it goes to the other extreme. You may be in the same room but never speak to one another. It doesn't matter what the other is talking about or does, it is uninteresting and boring.

If your relationship needs help, you'll also have a serious lack of interest in intimacy. The spark has gone out and you simply can't rekindle it.

There is no affection in your relationship. Nobody says I love you, there are no kisses or hugs. Human beings have the need to be satisfied, happy, to feel worthy and to be touched. If there is no touch, your marriage has a serious problem.

If carried to the extremes, your partner can really be turned off by jealousy. The jealous person might withdraw from intimacy because they think their partner has been unfaithful. The accused person might also hold back on their feelings because they are tired of all the jealous questions and constant badgering.

Avoid exaggeration and establish some ground rules. If jealousy is still an issue, seek help immediately. If your relationship is going to survive, you must curtail jealousy.

Problems in marriage can arise form debt, not enough money is a serious issue. If two people work together on a budget this is less of a problem. Live within your means. It really does help.

On the other hand, if either one or both spouse spends too much money or are living way above their means, they will surely end up drowning in debt. It follows that the relationship will start to sink as well. Debt literally can drain all of the life blood out of a relationship that was once very loving.

Every marriage has its day to day issues. Arguments and disagreements are common and are to be expected. Do an inventory on occasion and give yourselves a check up. If you're not where you want to be, how can you move forward to get there? Fix what's broken, learn from it and move on. Life is too short to spend it miserable.




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