What Wives And Husbands Learn In Marriage Counseling

By Sharon Weeks


A relationship free of squabbles is unnatural. There are always spats and fights that happen between couples. Matrimony in real life always has its ups and downs. Even the couples borne from fairy tales also have problems between them, not only from outside sources that want to break them up.

While partners can have small problems that can be easily resolved, some fights might be big enough that it will require intervention. These fights, when allowed to go on for a long time, can end up in divorce. It can signal the end of a relationship. For couples going through this, marriage counseling in Chicago is the best way for them to resolve their disagreements.

A lot of couples can learn many things through this activity. It helps them grow both as a person and a spouse. It boosts the marriage, help resolve disagreements, and ensure an emotionally healthy partnership between the husband and wife. Here are some important things a couple can learn from going through the said activity.

It is okay to have a fight. Couples who still care about each other enough will definitely fight. What makes a partnership lose its balance is indifference. If one or both gets apathetic toward their spouse, they will never be able to bounce back. When fighting, make sure to resolve differences, then kiss and make up.

Be flexible. Allow your spouse to grow. Just because the spouses are already married does not mean you will never change. Th same goes with your partner. Do not be shocked by the development a partner undergoes. You better make sure that a spouse does not go down the wrong path though.

The primary relationship should always be between the couple. This is basically the us first or A-Team attitude. What this means is that couples discuss, consult, and make decisions together as a couple, without putting other people, family members, or even children before their primary relationship. Putting the partner first makes him or her feel cherished and valued.

Show enthusiasm when saying hello. Couples can get separated from their spouse for a long period of time. Just because the two of you are already tied up in marriage though, that does not mean that you can greet him or her when he or she comes home by just glancing up and saying hi. You have to greet him as enthusiastically as you can. Coming home will become sweeter.

Saying thank you is just simple manners. However, it can help you maintain a good relationship with your partner. Your thank yous should not be reserved for strangers who do things for you. Your spouse should also know how grateful you are for his or her help. In fact, you will find it beneficial to show gratefulness, say, every night.

Get good feedback. It does not matter if the relationship with one's spouse has already gone on for a long period of time. Asking him or her if he or she knows how much you love him or her will help the relationship in a good way. Let your spouse know that he or she is appreciated. Moreover, you should also know for yourself that you are appreciated. Just ask the right question.




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