How To Fix Relationship Turmoil

By Roger Kelly


Life can surely be understood backwards, but there is no other way but living it forwards. So, no matter what hindrances one would encounter, always remember that life will never cease to give you a chance and they call it tomorrow. In whatever path you take, there are only two outcome, either you win or learn.

Finding a lover is no easy voyage and obstacles in maintaining a long lasting relationship is part of the package. Issues like struggling with intimacy come normal and usual. Keeping a stable relationship is a real battlefield.

Before finally tying the knot, it all starts at courtship. So, looking for that person that will court you forever is somehow a challenge. There are different manners of courtship. Some are hopeless romantic and would lure you with surprises. Some are typically straight forward. Some would drag you directly to intimate scenarios that serve as a label to them.

Everything happens for a reason. A person knows they are in love when they are able to get sleepless nights because finally, reality seems better than their dreams. True love is immeasurable and priceless and it does not have an exact definition. You just know that it is right, because no matter how wrong it may seem, you will always find ways to correct it and make it work.

The moment one enters a relationship, the couple would then start to work things out together. The very first requirement is time. They become a part of your normal daily routine. They are the first person to think of the moment you wake up and sometimes all throughout the day till one falls asleep. The person you want to share meals with. That someone you almost cannot live without anymore. Your world simply starts to change and literally revolves around that person only.

The worst part is when someone else ignites a new spark. It is all the same feeling all over again but already with a different person. You then start to tell yourself that you cannot just leave a person because your situation is not anymore ideal. However you cannot fight the urge and that spur in your heart, telling you that to find a way out. You already start to picture yourself with somebody else.

Reviving a relationship takes a lot of patience and courage for both sides. In order to fix the problem, each party must be able to recognize and accept their faults in order to forgive each other and give themselves a second chance at their relationship. Both parties need to realize that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but the key to having a great relationship is to just treat each other like it they are still in the early stage of their relationship, back when patience and love rules above all negative feelings.

When the pain of holding on becomes greater than it is of letting go then it is simply time to give up. The person who does not deserve you is blocking you from the one who do. The hardest thing that normally keeps someone hold on is the familiarity and the moments shared together, the attachment that is shared. It is the connection made throughout the duration of the relationship.

Saying I love you is very easy to do but is very hard to prove. Love is a word that has no definite meaning. If you have found the person who you decided to be with for the rest of your life, then fight for it and work hard for it.




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