If you think you can just learn a secret system or technique and be successful with women, you would get a rude awakening. You can memorize a bunch of lines and routines and go out and approach women. This will be successful only to break the ice and get your foot in the door. To successfully pickup women, you have to emotionally engage a woman, and not just use mechanical techniques.
Lots of guys have the mistaken belief that pickup methods are just about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Inevitably however, effectively attracting a woman has to do with making a special emotional connection in between you two. It's not only about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you need to adjust and adapt to the type of individual she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is precisely what is known to pickup artists as "calibration.".
After you have approached a woman and successfully opened the door, you have to immediately move into demonstrating your high value. In other words, you have to emotionally engage a woman and bring her into your reality. There are three main ways to do this:
A) Cocky/Funny.
This is acting cocky in a funny way. Not being outright rude or a clown, but being smart and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name again?
Woman: Cathy.
You: Nice name, you spell that with a K or C ?
Woman: K.
You: Are you serious? Haha, I don't want to talk with you anymore ...
Woman: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble ... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a buddy, however every Kathy that spells it with a K I have actually ever met has been such a party girl. awful influences on my life ...
The most important aspect of the above interaction is not the cocky/funny itself but how you're bringing her into your reality. You are using a concept called, "push-pull." This is basically when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are establishing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Routines and gimmicks.
There are all sorts of gimmicks and routines you can use to demonstrate your value. One of the most effective routines are magic tricks. A woman will ooh and ahh at a magic trick and will instantly create intrigue and interest towards you. However, this does not necessarily create attraction. To create attraction, you have to emotionally engage a woman with your trick.
Again, this means to bring her in to your reality. This is done by involving her and absorbing her in to your magic trick. You do a trick that actively involves her into the trick. Things like reading her thoughts or guessing the number she's thinking etc. works well to engage her feelings.
C) Reading and understanding her
Women will be irresistibly attracted to you if you understand them as an individual and acknowledge the kind of person she is. The following is an example dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I first met you, you seemed kind of cold, but I don't know... You know there are two types of people in this world. Those who observe and those who are observed, and you seem more like the observer type of person. I think when people first meet you, they'll think you're cold and distant but that's only because they don't know you. You experience the world through your emotions and just want to make sure that the people you let into your life are genuinely good people. But that's just a shield you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having fun, you can let go and be yourself. And that's what you're looking for in life, i think, people who you can be real with and who really understands you as a person.
This is among the most powerful ways to immediately emotionally involve a girl. This will immediately make strong attraction as well as connection. However, you actually need to be perceptive and thoughtful, which only comes with experience and skill.
The point of all these is to emotionally engage a woman. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you throw down has no meaning unless you engage a woman and make an emotional connection. Keep the boring talk to a minimum. As soon as you open the door and get in, immediately engage her emotions through the above techniques.
Lots of guys have the mistaken belief that pickup methods are just about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Inevitably however, effectively attracting a woman has to do with making a special emotional connection in between you two. It's not only about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you need to adjust and adapt to the type of individual she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is precisely what is known to pickup artists as "calibration.".
After you have approached a woman and successfully opened the door, you have to immediately move into demonstrating your high value. In other words, you have to emotionally engage a woman and bring her into your reality. There are three main ways to do this:
A) Cocky/Funny.
This is acting cocky in a funny way. Not being outright rude or a clown, but being smart and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name again?
Woman: Cathy.
You: Nice name, you spell that with a K or C ?
Woman: K.
You: Are you serious? Haha, I don't want to talk with you anymore ...
Woman: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble ... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a buddy, however every Kathy that spells it with a K I have actually ever met has been such a party girl. awful influences on my life ...
The most important aspect of the above interaction is not the cocky/funny itself but how you're bringing her into your reality. You are using a concept called, "push-pull." This is basically when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are establishing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Routines and gimmicks.
There are all sorts of gimmicks and routines you can use to demonstrate your value. One of the most effective routines are magic tricks. A woman will ooh and ahh at a magic trick and will instantly create intrigue and interest towards you. However, this does not necessarily create attraction. To create attraction, you have to emotionally engage a woman with your trick.
Again, this means to bring her in to your reality. This is done by involving her and absorbing her in to your magic trick. You do a trick that actively involves her into the trick. Things like reading her thoughts or guessing the number she's thinking etc. works well to engage her feelings.
C) Reading and understanding her
Women will be irresistibly attracted to you if you understand them as an individual and acknowledge the kind of person she is. The following is an example dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I first met you, you seemed kind of cold, but I don't know... You know there are two types of people in this world. Those who observe and those who are observed, and you seem more like the observer type of person. I think when people first meet you, they'll think you're cold and distant but that's only because they don't know you. You experience the world through your emotions and just want to make sure that the people you let into your life are genuinely good people. But that's just a shield you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having fun, you can let go and be yourself. And that's what you're looking for in life, i think, people who you can be real with and who really understands you as a person.
This is among the most powerful ways to immediately emotionally involve a girl. This will immediately make strong attraction as well as connection. However, you actually need to be perceptive and thoughtful, which only comes with experience and skill.
The point of all these is to emotionally engage a woman. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you throw down has no meaning unless you engage a woman and make an emotional connection. Keep the boring talk to a minimum. As soon as you open the door and get in, immediately engage her emotions through the above techniques.
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