The confusion over how your ex feels about you after a breakup can be a little confusing, to say the least. What your ex says and does can send you a mixed message. You don't want to believe that it's truly over yet they say that they're done. They have broken up with you. On the other hand, you can't imagine that your ex feels nothing for you. How do you know what they feel? Is there still a chance and can your ex still be in love with you after all?
You are probably having a difficult enough time with your emotions and your life at the moment. Trying to unravel what is going on inside the mind of your ex is almost impossible. You need to know, though. You want to know if there is a spark of love left in their heart. Can you fan that flame and make that love burst to life once again? Knowing that your ex is still in love with you can give you that hope and help you to remain patient as your ex works through their emotions and feelings. These signs will tell you everything you need to know about what lies in their heart.
First, have you heard from family or friends that your ex has been in touch? Has your ex reached out to people that you know in an attempt to find out how you're doing or if you still have feelings for them? This is almost a sure sign that your ex is still in love with you. Connecting with mutual friends or talking with your family is a subtle way for your ex to connect with you without actually talking with you.
The temptation to either become angry with your friends and family for talking with your ex might be your initial reaction. Instead of lashing out at them, recognize this communication between your ex and the people around you as a feeble attempt to get information about you. It might be best if you keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself at this point. Dragging your close friends into your relationship right now isn't a good idea. Let your ex become frustrated when they can't get any real information out of these resources and make your ex contact you directly instead. Using a third party to help you get your ex back isn't a good idea, no matter how clever you might think it is.
The next clue that your ex still feels something for you will be that they contact you directly. They might have a question or a lame excuse to get in touch with you such as wanting to return some things that they found or yous or to ask you a simple question such as where something is that they misplaced. The truth is that they are contacting you to either see how you are, hear your voice again or to open up the lines of communication. Your ex will have moments when they will miss you every bit as much as you miss them. The desire to connect with the person that was once so close to them can be overwhelming and they will reach out to you in this moment of weakness.
Be careful not to get too excited or to think that this is your chance to get back together with your ex. Be cool and calm. If you feel that you can't remain calm and you feel the desire to beg your ex to take you back, postpone your meeting or avoid picking up the phone. Until you self-confidence has returned, you are only going to push your ex away by talking too much or bringing up the subject of getting back together. This contact from your ex is a good sign but it can be a trap that will cause you to push them further away in an attempt to get back together.
One good place to look for signs that your ex is still in love with you is on their social networking profile. While spying on your ex is frowned upon, you probably know that your ex looks at your profile to see what is going on in your life. Likewise, your ex knows that you look at their profile so they will sometimes post pictures or write about how happy they are with life right now. Chances are that the majority of information that your ex posts to their profile will be directed towards you without mentioning your name at all.
It can be dangerous to spy on your ex using their social networking profile. Sometimes it's better to live in ignorant bliss. Be sure that you're in a positive mood and understand that there is always a logical explanation for whatever you find. You might be tempted to become hurt or angry if your ex appears to be having a great time without you but keep in mind that often when someone is trying to convince the world that everything is fine, there are problems just underneath the surface. People often cover deep wounds with partying and acting as if things are just a little too wonderful to be true. An ex that posts picture of themselves with a new partner or a status update saying how happy they are is usually on the brink of falling apart. Be sure that you have your life together since this is your cue that they are about to implode.
If you notice any of these signs that your ex misses you and is still in love with you, keep this information to yourself. Be happy about it but be patient. Don't try to reach out to your ex or confront them with this knowledge. Remain hopeful and work on getting your life and self-esteem back before you attempt to bring up the subject of getting back together. Let your ex fall in love with you all over again. There will come a breaking point and there's a very good chance that your ex is close to reaching that point. Be ready to catch them when they fall and understand that pushing your ex or trying to convince them to come back to you simply isn't going to work.
You are probably having a difficult enough time with your emotions and your life at the moment. Trying to unravel what is going on inside the mind of your ex is almost impossible. You need to know, though. You want to know if there is a spark of love left in their heart. Can you fan that flame and make that love burst to life once again? Knowing that your ex is still in love with you can give you that hope and help you to remain patient as your ex works through their emotions and feelings. These signs will tell you everything you need to know about what lies in their heart.
First, have you heard from family or friends that your ex has been in touch? Has your ex reached out to people that you know in an attempt to find out how you're doing or if you still have feelings for them? This is almost a sure sign that your ex is still in love with you. Connecting with mutual friends or talking with your family is a subtle way for your ex to connect with you without actually talking with you.
The temptation to either become angry with your friends and family for talking with your ex might be your initial reaction. Instead of lashing out at them, recognize this communication between your ex and the people around you as a feeble attempt to get information about you. It might be best if you keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself at this point. Dragging your close friends into your relationship right now isn't a good idea. Let your ex become frustrated when they can't get any real information out of these resources and make your ex contact you directly instead. Using a third party to help you get your ex back isn't a good idea, no matter how clever you might think it is.
The next clue that your ex still feels something for you will be that they contact you directly. They might have a question or a lame excuse to get in touch with you such as wanting to return some things that they found or yous or to ask you a simple question such as where something is that they misplaced. The truth is that they are contacting you to either see how you are, hear your voice again or to open up the lines of communication. Your ex will have moments when they will miss you every bit as much as you miss them. The desire to connect with the person that was once so close to them can be overwhelming and they will reach out to you in this moment of weakness.
Be careful not to get too excited or to think that this is your chance to get back together with your ex. Be cool and calm. If you feel that you can't remain calm and you feel the desire to beg your ex to take you back, postpone your meeting or avoid picking up the phone. Until you self-confidence has returned, you are only going to push your ex away by talking too much or bringing up the subject of getting back together. This contact from your ex is a good sign but it can be a trap that will cause you to push them further away in an attempt to get back together.
One good place to look for signs that your ex is still in love with you is on their social networking profile. While spying on your ex is frowned upon, you probably know that your ex looks at your profile to see what is going on in your life. Likewise, your ex knows that you look at their profile so they will sometimes post pictures or write about how happy they are with life right now. Chances are that the majority of information that your ex posts to their profile will be directed towards you without mentioning your name at all.
It can be dangerous to spy on your ex using their social networking profile. Sometimes it's better to live in ignorant bliss. Be sure that you're in a positive mood and understand that there is always a logical explanation for whatever you find. You might be tempted to become hurt or angry if your ex appears to be having a great time without you but keep in mind that often when someone is trying to convince the world that everything is fine, there are problems just underneath the surface. People often cover deep wounds with partying and acting as if things are just a little too wonderful to be true. An ex that posts picture of themselves with a new partner or a status update saying how happy they are is usually on the brink of falling apart. Be sure that you have your life together since this is your cue that they are about to implode.
If you notice any of these signs that your ex misses you and is still in love with you, keep this information to yourself. Be happy about it but be patient. Don't try to reach out to your ex or confront them with this knowledge. Remain hopeful and work on getting your life and self-esteem back before you attempt to bring up the subject of getting back together. Let your ex fall in love with you all over again. There will come a breaking point and there's a very good chance that your ex is close to reaching that point. Be ready to catch them when they fall and understand that pushing your ex or trying to convince them to come back to you simply isn't going to work.
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