When you're in a bad marriage, it can be as painful as getting a root canal or open heart surgery. Marriages that are good are difficult enough already to cultivate because all married couples go through good days and bad days, ups and downs in their lives together.
There can be good days and bad days, which will make you feel as though you are on a sort of emotional roller coaster that has come off of the tracks.
Spouses who grew up in a home with a bad marriage often assume that this is the same everywhere. They see their parents go through their marriage without love just for the kids. This usually does not help the children at all.
They go through life having a false assumption of what a happy family should look like. Then, when they get into a shaky marriage, they just go with it and live with it.
Some of the signs of a marriage in trouble include the lack of affection, intimacy and communication. There may be even abuse physically and verbally. If either the husband or the wife make excuses to not be at home all the time, that is a signal that something is wrong. With no communication, problems cannot be solved. You have to recognize and accept what the problem is, then solve it together.
Do not deny what has been happening. Maybe you think that marriage is sacred and don't want to seek help because you are afraid to fail. Other people may stay in a bad marriage because they are doing it for their children, or they don't want to disappoint their family and friends. You don't have to sacrifice your happiness to protect them. Admit what is happen, then seek help.
People hang on to the hope that they can save their marriage. They wait years and years, then finally they seek therapy or counseling. More than fifty percent of couples who seek counseling are able to save their marriage.
The worst thing that you can do if there are any signs that you are in a bad marriage is falling into a state of denial. No matter how sacred you feel the bond of marriage is, you are not going to be doing either of you justice by trying to keep the pieces of your relationship from falling apart.
A lot of people have a fantasy view that if there is love, it will solve all problems. Yes, keeping a positive attitude is good, but someone still need to point out the reality and where the marriage is weak. Then, you are able to separate what is real and what is not real. Love can be an infatuation that does not last.
Research has shown that couples in a bad marriage suffer more from poor health because of the additional stress. That is a danger. There is a higher risk of heart disease, depression, eating disorders and other ailments because they are constantly under stress and in an unhappy state. It can negatively affect a person's immune system and the body's ability to resist illnesses and disease.
You don't have to be embarrassed about your situation and not talk about it. When there is love, respect, and a commitment to seek solutions, a bad marriage can be saved. You have to first be honest with yourself and make a decision if the marriage is worth saving. This decision is up to you to make.
There can be good days and bad days, which will make you feel as though you are on a sort of emotional roller coaster that has come off of the tracks.
Spouses who grew up in a home with a bad marriage often assume that this is the same everywhere. They see their parents go through their marriage without love just for the kids. This usually does not help the children at all.
They go through life having a false assumption of what a happy family should look like. Then, when they get into a shaky marriage, they just go with it and live with it.
Some of the signs of a marriage in trouble include the lack of affection, intimacy and communication. There may be even abuse physically and verbally. If either the husband or the wife make excuses to not be at home all the time, that is a signal that something is wrong. With no communication, problems cannot be solved. You have to recognize and accept what the problem is, then solve it together.
Do not deny what has been happening. Maybe you think that marriage is sacred and don't want to seek help because you are afraid to fail. Other people may stay in a bad marriage because they are doing it for their children, or they don't want to disappoint their family and friends. You don't have to sacrifice your happiness to protect them. Admit what is happen, then seek help.
People hang on to the hope that they can save their marriage. They wait years and years, then finally they seek therapy or counseling. More than fifty percent of couples who seek counseling are able to save their marriage.
The worst thing that you can do if there are any signs that you are in a bad marriage is falling into a state of denial. No matter how sacred you feel the bond of marriage is, you are not going to be doing either of you justice by trying to keep the pieces of your relationship from falling apart.
A lot of people have a fantasy view that if there is love, it will solve all problems. Yes, keeping a positive attitude is good, but someone still need to point out the reality and where the marriage is weak. Then, you are able to separate what is real and what is not real. Love can be an infatuation that does not last.
Research has shown that couples in a bad marriage suffer more from poor health because of the additional stress. That is a danger. There is a higher risk of heart disease, depression, eating disorders and other ailments because they are constantly under stress and in an unhappy state. It can negatively affect a person's immune system and the body's ability to resist illnesses and disease.
You don't have to be embarrassed about your situation and not talk about it. When there is love, respect, and a commitment to seek solutions, a bad marriage can be saved. You have to first be honest with yourself and make a decision if the marriage is worth saving. This decision is up to you to make.
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Do you want to know how to save my marriage? There are a lot of ways to do so, but you need to understand that it will take a lot of effort and patience.
