How To Deal With Anger After She Cheated On You

By Jeraldine Hemongala


After finding out your wife cheated on you, several things can brew such as revenge, depression and anger. The latter is a very powerful thing and is very destructive. Compared to depression and thoughts of revenge, it is much harder to remove anger from a person.

Having anger in your heart can unconsciously affect relationships with friends, family and coworkers. That being said, it is important to take measures to get over anger in order to regain your emotional health.

When you have anger in your heart, you will find that it affects your relationships, from your friends, to your family, all the way to your co-workers. Eventually, your life will begin to fall apart, and you will start down a path that you never wanted to see in the first place.

1. Whether it's your best friend, a counselor, someone from a support group, your next door neighbor, or heck even your plumber, for goodness sake talk to someone and let that anger out. Men are not known to talk about their feelings, but in this case, releasing all those pent up anger and questions looming in your head through talking will not make you less of a man.

Talking to someone will help you clear your head and put things into perspective. They may give you advice but you don't need to take all of it. Take the advice that you think will help you and do it.

2. This is one thing that every angry and depressed person should do regularly because the benefits cannot be emphasized enough. Exercise releases happy hormones that fight stress. It will help release all those pent up energy brewing inside that is contributing to your anger.

Exercise can also help you feel and look good about yourself. It will help boost your confidence and self-worth that was crushed after knowing about your wife's infidelity. Exercise everyday and often.

3. Getting over anger can start with evaluating the reason why your wife actually cheated and accepting the situation. It is not about whose fault it is but what lessons can be taken from the situation.

3. Once you get over your anger, you can get to the bottom of things, for example figuring out what why she cheated on you. Rather than focusing on the fault, focus on the lessons you can take away from the situation.

4. So she cheated, get over it. It is not the end of the world though in the beginning it may seem that way. The more you realize that there is life after being betrayed with or without her, the more you will look forward to a happier future.

Moving forward means knowing there is a possibility of rebuilding a much better marriage than you had before your wife's affair. Or if not, having another relationship again that is better and happier than the one you previously had.




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