There are these moments during particular days where I must be surprisingly honest with myself about what I am going through and feeling. I know when it is getting ready to come up because I get this wave of energy from the apex of my neck down to my back and I feel my mood begin to change. I used to be scared of it...the sensation of water almost dripping down my back. But in time I have learned how to sit with it.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling up to the surface.
Frequently we go through life not realising that there are things under the surface. We think we have totally recovered or have moved on, but in truth there are still pieces to the puzzle that must be put together. Perhaps Maybe it is only one piece left, maybe it is simply this moment where you need to sit down and get quiet for one last time, or maybe it demands more of your attention.
There's a fascinating balance between moving forward and mulling over something, whatever the situation may be, and starting to understand what is occurring inside of you. I suspect most of the time when anyone is hurt and other people recognise it they try and tell that person to pick themselves up as fast as possible and forget the past. This information, while intended to be beneficial, isn't actually realistic - only because the same person who gave that guidance, in a similar scenario, could not take it.
The best advice you can truly give is not to forget as fast as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring inside. To let it all flow through you. The sole way you can actually understand what something really means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the aftermath.
Have a truth filled moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They are life's way of balancing you out. When you try to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrible place. Let life do what it needs to do to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move onward. Don't attempt to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to talk with you. Open yourself to feelings and let them talk reason into your heart.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling up to the surface.
Frequently we go through life not realising that there are things under the surface. We think we have totally recovered or have moved on, but in truth there are still pieces to the puzzle that must be put together. Perhaps Maybe it is only one piece left, maybe it is simply this moment where you need to sit down and get quiet for one last time, or maybe it demands more of your attention.
There's a fascinating balance between moving forward and mulling over something, whatever the situation may be, and starting to understand what is occurring inside of you. I suspect most of the time when anyone is hurt and other people recognise it they try and tell that person to pick themselves up as fast as possible and forget the past. This information, while intended to be beneficial, isn't actually realistic - only because the same person who gave that guidance, in a similar scenario, could not take it.
The best advice you can truly give is not to forget as fast as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring inside. To let it all flow through you. The sole way you can actually understand what something really means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the aftermath.
Have a truth filled moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They are life's way of balancing you out. When you try to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrible place. Let life do what it needs to do to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move onward. Don't attempt to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to talk with you. Open yourself to feelings and let them talk reason into your heart.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to move forward with your life and recover from a relationship? Try these ex boyfriend quotes out.
