Healthy Environment In A Union Of Marriage

By Jeffrey Jones


Earlier marriages used to be arranged by the family members. Departing after marriage was considered to be a taboo in the society. Due to this the couple learnt to live in disagreement and unhappiness throughout their life. People were not aware of the reasons behind separation. Today therapists have identified the divorce warning signs.

In certain marriages people might stay together for a longer time. During this period couples come to know each other in a detailed manner. Both sides experience good and bad side of each other. Slowly this converts to misunderstanding, unattractiveness, quarrels and litigations which finally lead to divorce.

Countries which have arranged marriage in practice the divorce rate is low because the family and society come together to solve the problem. Modernization is one among many reasons for separation. Due to this more freedom and money is available with people to ignore others sentiments and values.

From top to lower class families domestic violence usually occurs in inferior sections. In reality it is a problem across all social parties. This not only means physical assault, but it is a willful intimidation, sex crime, hurtful abusive behavior. There might be variety of reasons for the hostility. We must understand this hostility will not solve the issue.

Children bring lot of positivity and happiness in the family. Parents must look at their wellbeing and interest. We must try to understand their core skill and take active participation in developing it. Tomorrow when these kids grow as adults they should be responsible citizens of the country.

Unemployment plays a big role in divorce. A huge challenge a relationship can face is one of the partners losing their job. This creates humiliation, frustration, fear, and despair among the couples. This can put marriages under tremendous strain. May be for the first three months things would go without any serious issues and after that if any one of them is not able to find a job things go wrong in the family.

Occupations and complexity regarding earning more also creates problems in relationships. People having jobs in police and military, nurses, bartenders would have less time to share with their family. Wives making more money than their husbands are generally not appreciated by the spouse and thus create ego complexes that lead to separation.

Divorce proceedings in court are a tedious activity. When a husband and wife mutually concur for a separation it will be easily accepted by the court with mutual consent. Cost is not involved when both parties agree for getting departed. Child expenses can be shared between the parents based on the discussions. The counselors help the partners by giving motivation to start a new journey.

Both parties should be willing to adjust for a compromise. Blaming does not give any benefit to any person. Forgiving is a good medicine to help a relationship. Both people need to pardon and let go off the complexes. When all these things are done a relationship can be saved from a divorce.




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