How To Get Your Ex Back Starting Today

By Kelly Crumble


Almost every adult has experienced a break up sometime during their life, and most of the time they just learn how to move on.But what if you're not one of those people that likes to play the victim? You want your ex back and you're willing to do a little work to make it happen. That's a good and smart choice.Fact is, around 90% of all break ups can be reversed...if you know the steps you need to take to win back your ex. We'll talk about some of those in a second, but first I want to point out that you'll find some amazing resources down at the bottom of this article. These are the best sites I've found at laying out a step-by-step, easy to follow game plan for getting back together. You owe it to yourself to take a look.

Before I start, there are also some other things that you should do like; improving your self-esteem and image by working out and trying to feel better about yourself, you can also bring up to your ex past events that you shared and had fun.Another thing that you should do is to put your focus on yourself. I know that it sounds counterproductive to your cause, but the truth of the matter is that people like it when their partners are confident in themselves. Go out and start putting down an exercising plan. Improve your diet to healthy foods and avoid associating yourself with people who are not like-minded.

The next step is to make sure you don't make yourself seem needy. Even though almost everyone feels like they need to express to their ex that they cannot live without them, there is no point in telling them that. Instead stay strong, let your ex see that you are okay by yourself, and show everyone around you that you have self confidence and you are happy with yourself. Seeming needy or desperate will only push your ex further away, so make sure to maintain your confidence to get him to crawl right back to you.

It does not have to be an expensive one. You can get good discounts on clothing even at your local shops. I stress on this self-image point because it has not only to do with how people see you, but it also has to do with how you see yourself. Do you see yourself as a winner or a loser? Do you see yourself as half empty or half full? Do you think that your relationship with your ex is something that can be salvaged or not? If you think it can, then it will. It all depends on what you think is possible. Start taking proper care of yourself from today and I assure you that you will be happy you did.

Stop being needy. Always remember this: a hungry dog doesn't get fed! Nobody wants to be around a needy person. It's hard-wired into our brains to align with people who have higher survival value and stay away from needy people. While it is possible to make your ex take you back out of pity, it's not what we are trying to accomplish here. You want your ex to be attracted to you again, not to feel sorry for you.

egardless of whether you broke up with your partner or it was the other way around, a breakup will always be difficult to go through. There is no easy way around it. The truth is, it can take immense effort to get past a breakup. Nobody likes it, but it's a situation that many couples experience - sometimes, even more than once.

If you find yourself longing to be back with your ex after a breakup but don't know where to begin, don't lose hope! The Internet holds some of the secrets to winning an ex back as soon as possible, and in this article, you'll find some of them.

This is just the most childish "advice" I've heard about relationships. Of course, there are instances where it is inappropriate and forbidden to contact an ex after a breakup, but to NEVER contact them? As in, an eternal ban of communication from your ex-partner? This can't be farther from the truth. What if your ex tries to contact your first? What if it's been over a month since the break up? What if you are both working at the same place and you need to be able to talk to each other? Does this advice still hold?Maybe the more appropriate tip would be "If possible, limit your communication with your ex, and sensibly ask your ex to do the same." And this situation shouldn't go on for more than a month. Trust me, relationship heartaches normally cease three weeks after a breakup. So, I think it's safe to talk to your ex freely and openly after three weeks. But never before that.

Give yourself a little time to think about how you will go about getting your ex girlfriend back instead. Avoid communicating with her for the mean time and focus on yourself first. Improve yourself. Go out, work out, and do the things you love to do. Have a good time - you deserve it.And now that you are single, it's your chance to spend more time with your friends. You might even run into your ex while out with your buddies.

That is not to say that you won't give your ex some space. You should, but only for a few days. When the dust has finally settled, try talking to her and telling her of your plan to get the relationship back. This will take her off guard and will stunt the possibility of her getting together with another guy.This is the biggest lie in the book in my opinion. We have mentioned already in the article that the main reason for breakups is a third party - if you let your ex-girlfriend see you seemingly happy on dates with someone else, then she will be convinced all the more that the breakup was for the better. She will then pursue her new relationship seeing that you've already moved on. So, in reality, this plan will backfire from the get go. Don't make her jealous - instead, show how committed and loyal you are to the relationship by not seeing other people




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