The emotions often associated with a breakup are sadness, emotional pain and loneliness. The pain you are feeling is very real and the blow that your ego has take is real. After all, the one person you trusted with your heart has rejected you and left you. You feel like you simply can not be happy until you have your ex back in your life again. You mind spins as you explore options and make plans to win your ex back but all your efforts seem to only make your ex more distant and cold. You want to live again but life without your ex is a cold, dark place. What should you do and how can you rekindle the love that your ex once felt for you? How do you begin to live again without your ex?
Joy and a love for life truly are the emotions that you must feel before your ex will consider returning. This might sound insane but there is a method to this madness. You may have even noticed this in your life and other relationships. Your best chance for getting back together with the one you love is to adopt a cheerful attitude and eliminate any appearance of anxiety or sadness from your life. You might feel a little uncomfortable with this thought or say that it is impossible. You may even cling to the pain as if it is the last shred of what is left of your relationship. You might even worry that your ex will feel that you don't care anymore if you're not upset but this isn't true.
Fear and sadness are not helpful emotions in your life anymore. These emotions aren't helping you to get your ex back or achieve anything worthwhile in your life. They only drag you down and waste your time. People avoid sad, emotional, depressed people who appear to have a lot of drama in their life. We all tend to gravitate toward others who are happy, optimistic about life and those that have exciting goals and dreams. Your goal is to become attractive to your ex again, correct? Your ex is probably tired of seeing you upset and emotional and changing your attitude will change how your ex views you in their mind and feels about you in their heart.
You might be sitting there thinking that it would be wonderful to be happy again but you're not sure of what to do. Begin by thinking about what will make you happy right now. At this very moment, what can you do to make you feel better or make you smile. Do you want a cup of coffee? Do you want to take a day off from work and watch some funny movies? Perhaps there is a favorite food that you enjoy that could cheer you up or improve your mood. Cook yourself a good meal and forget about your troubles for a while. Feel happiness wash over you as you relax and understand that you deserve to be happy again. You have time on your hands. Use it wisely because there very well may come a day very soon when you don't have the luxury of this time. Get involved in a sport that you've always wanted to try like fencing or boxing. Watch some funny videos that will make you laugh or feel good about life again.
Now it's time to think big. What big goals do you have in your life that you never got around to completing? Do you have a bucket list of things that you want to do with your life? Maybe you always dreamed of being your own boss and running your own business. Perhaps you secretly held a desire to travel to Paris or ride horses on the beach in Mexico. These are the things that you need to make plans to do. These are the dreams and you need to focus on until your ex decides to come back to you. As your mood and attitude towards life improves, your ex will feel the shift in your attitude and be drawn to you. Your ex will wonder what is going on in your life and investigate by either contacting you or talking to your mutual friends.
To take care of that power that your ex might have over your heart, you should keep your mind open to the fact that there are many other people on the face of this wonderful planet who would love to date you. There are many attractive people who are seeking someone just like you to spend time with. Go for a walk at the park, look around at your work and peruse dating websites just to open your mind to this possibility. You might not feel like dating anyone and you might not want to deal with starting over with someone new but simply seeing that you do have options will removed that desperation that you're feeling. Seeing a photo of someone that you find attractive and knowing that this possibility of spending time with someone attractive will remove that need to be with your ex and replace it with a simple desire which is much more attractive to your ex.
Loneliness can be difficult to handle at first but you will find that it becomes easier in time. Soon you will be so busy with your life that you will even forget about your ex for short periods of time. Don't become upset about this. This is natural. As your life settles down and you start feeling better about yourself, things will change. You will have things in your life that make you happy and as a result you will become more attractive to your ex and the people around you. It is often when we are satisfied with our life and truly happy again that our ex comes back. There is a connection between these two so the sooner you start to feel better about yourself and your life, the sooner you will find your ex becomes attracted to you again.
Joy and a love for life truly are the emotions that you must feel before your ex will consider returning. This might sound insane but there is a method to this madness. You may have even noticed this in your life and other relationships. Your best chance for getting back together with the one you love is to adopt a cheerful attitude and eliminate any appearance of anxiety or sadness from your life. You might feel a little uncomfortable with this thought or say that it is impossible. You may even cling to the pain as if it is the last shred of what is left of your relationship. You might even worry that your ex will feel that you don't care anymore if you're not upset but this isn't true.
Fear and sadness are not helpful emotions in your life anymore. These emotions aren't helping you to get your ex back or achieve anything worthwhile in your life. They only drag you down and waste your time. People avoid sad, emotional, depressed people who appear to have a lot of drama in their life. We all tend to gravitate toward others who are happy, optimistic about life and those that have exciting goals and dreams. Your goal is to become attractive to your ex again, correct? Your ex is probably tired of seeing you upset and emotional and changing your attitude will change how your ex views you in their mind and feels about you in their heart.
You might be sitting there thinking that it would be wonderful to be happy again but you're not sure of what to do. Begin by thinking about what will make you happy right now. At this very moment, what can you do to make you feel better or make you smile. Do you want a cup of coffee? Do you want to take a day off from work and watch some funny movies? Perhaps there is a favorite food that you enjoy that could cheer you up or improve your mood. Cook yourself a good meal and forget about your troubles for a while. Feel happiness wash over you as you relax and understand that you deserve to be happy again. You have time on your hands. Use it wisely because there very well may come a day very soon when you don't have the luxury of this time. Get involved in a sport that you've always wanted to try like fencing or boxing. Watch some funny videos that will make you laugh or feel good about life again.
Now it's time to think big. What big goals do you have in your life that you never got around to completing? Do you have a bucket list of things that you want to do with your life? Maybe you always dreamed of being your own boss and running your own business. Perhaps you secretly held a desire to travel to Paris or ride horses on the beach in Mexico. These are the things that you need to make plans to do. These are the dreams and you need to focus on until your ex decides to come back to you. As your mood and attitude towards life improves, your ex will feel the shift in your attitude and be drawn to you. Your ex will wonder what is going on in your life and investigate by either contacting you or talking to your mutual friends.
To take care of that power that your ex might have over your heart, you should keep your mind open to the fact that there are many other people on the face of this wonderful planet who would love to date you. There are many attractive people who are seeking someone just like you to spend time with. Go for a walk at the park, look around at your work and peruse dating websites just to open your mind to this possibility. You might not feel like dating anyone and you might not want to deal with starting over with someone new but simply seeing that you do have options will removed that desperation that you're feeling. Seeing a photo of someone that you find attractive and knowing that this possibility of spending time with someone attractive will remove that need to be with your ex and replace it with a simple desire which is much more attractive to your ex.
Loneliness can be difficult to handle at first but you will find that it becomes easier in time. Soon you will be so busy with your life that you will even forget about your ex for short periods of time. Don't become upset about this. This is natural. As your life settles down and you start feeling better about yourself, things will change. You will have things in your life that make you happy and as a result you will become more attractive to your ex and the people around you. It is often when we are satisfied with our life and truly happy again that our ex comes back. There is a connection between these two so the sooner you start to feel better about yourself and your life, the sooner you will find your ex becomes attracted to you again.
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